My War Against the Actual Real Transgender Man

On my nemesis — a collection of gender-based insecurities in the form of a person — and the pressure to be real.

He looks like this, but without the goofy hair. Photo by Simone Pellegrini on Unsplash

Every day of my life, I feel his presence: The Actual Real Transgender Man. This man does not exist (although he does, in the form of all trans men who have their shit more together than I do) and…