I Don’t Mean Women When I Say “Men”

A cup of coffee that has been poured so as to spill all over. This is an ad for a coffee shop, somehow, so if you go, make sure they don’t do this.
When you search for “mess” on this image service, you get a lot of people who are really bad at pouring coffee. Photo by Battlecreek Coffee Roasters on Unsplash

Since I first came out, there has been one big, obvious problem with my public existence. I’ve been a writer and a professional feminist for about thirteen years, and I’ve only been out as trans for two of them.

Newly out trans people who aren’t public figures have time to learn. They have time to make mistakes. As for me, I have…



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Jude Ellison S. Doyle

Jude Ellison S. Doyle


Author of “Trainwreck” (Melville House, ‘16) and “Dead Blondes and Bad Mothers” (Melville House, ‘19). Columns published far and wide across the Internet.