Men Can Be Single Without Murdering Anybody

It’s not even hard. So to speak.

Jude Ellison S. Doyle

A really pretty terrifying bunny next to a sign that reads “NO SEXUAL SERVICES.”
OK, who tried to fuck the rabbit? Photo by Dalelan Anderson on Unsplash

Friends, Romans, countrythems: They told me I would never make it. My ambitions were mocked; scorned; they laughed at me, and they laughed at you for believing in me. Yet I stand before you today as one of the most sex-having men in the United States of America. Do you doubt me? Behold the chart!!!!

That’s right, kids: I am having sex on a basis of “weekly or more,” along with approximately 40% of people surveyed. Please, try to contain your envy. I know this will be difficult if you are among the 39% (or so) of people having sex on a monthly basis, or the 23% who did not have sex in the past year.

I lead with these numbers (the same ones the Washington Post leads with) to make a point: First, despite headlines to the contrary, we are not in the midst of a sex drought. Most American adults are still having sex — or were, as of 2018 — except for the slight uptick in the number of people reporting year-long dry spells. That number has gone up less than five percentage points in three decades, from 19% of respondents in 1989 to 23% in 2018.

Most of the respondents who aren’t having sex are young people between 18 and 30. Experts quoted in the Post article cite a number of perfectly reasonable explanations, like the fact that young people are…

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I'm glad Hunt has rethought her wording! I support the WAS Global Statements on Rights to Sex and Pleasure, and I'm a AASECT educator, incorporating sex and body positivity into my LGBTQ cultural competency and DEI work, BUT, a right to have sex is…...

Thank god for this article. I thought I was watching the feminist-ification of Jordan Peterson's 'enforced monogamy' ideas in real time.

I think it's also worth noting that not everyone who isn't having sex is suffering. The crisis framing I've been seeing for a few years now around a "sex depression" assumes there are no sex-averse or sex-neutral asexual or aromantic people and…...